…learn to be who you are, choose for yourself

Watching Ellen last week (yes, being a stay at home mum has its perks 😉) I hadn’t realised the path that had brought her to where she is. It was unbelievable to me that she faced such immense hatred, to the point she lost her entire career. 

Scarier still is that, whilst amazing leaps have been made in accepting and supporting the LGBT community, we are still in a world that does not accept people for who they are. There are still so many people, from all walks of life, who feel they have to hide parts of themselves and conform to the socially acceptable view. 

It’s very easy to say…be who you are, choose for yourself. So much harder to actually do it and even harder still to empower others to do so. 

As a mum…how do I instill that in my child so that he actually believes it and values it in himself and others? Some might say that’s it’s as simple as just showing them that you are true to yourself…but, some days, I don’t even know who I am! 

Being a role model certainly plays it’s part but I’m only going to be one of the sole influences in his life for a very short period of time. There will come a point when he will look to his friends and even celebrities for guidance! 

I wonder if it’s not just about showing our children the certain, confident parts of ourselves. Is it also about showing the ugly sides too? Admitting we are still learning about ourselves? Owning up to mistakes and uncertainty in our lives? Giving them space to see that we are trying to accept who we are in that moment…warts and all? 

Who knows, I could be the greatest role model for being true to yourself and he still might go off and pick a bloody celebrity to hero worship! Fingers crossed for David Beckham 😉 

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