Last night I hosted the 1st MammaKnows…virtual coffee group! I was super nervous that it would bomb but, as usual, you lovely MammaKnows…followers stepped up and shared some fantastic tips, resources and advice ❤
Our topic was relaxing . I’ve blogged before about ‘getting off the grid’ and taking some time completely out of the madhouse that is being a mum but, realistically, how often can you actually do this? What do you do when time for this is super rare?
The discussion was great. Not just because people shared their fantastic tips but because it also went deeper. It became a conversation around being mindful about your choices; really honouring yourself and giving yourself permission to nourish that basic need in us all.
“I’ve observed that different people need very different things to help them relax…I think it’s important to realise that, especially as a mother, you need to be quite deliberate and methodical about seeking out what’s right for you.” -Sarah Hon (Teacher @ Beach Haven Community Yoga)
The idea of ‘deliberately and methodically finding my own way of relaxing on a practical, day-to-day level struck a cord with me. So often I find myself a slave to Netflix or cleaning the house during those daytime naps! The Little Man wakes up and I feel no more ready for the next adventure than before!
I never really thought before about actively seeking out the right things to help me relax. Unconsciously, writing this blog has become one of those ways and yoga, definitely yoga, but could I list 5 other ways?!
It also got me thinking about my husband and my perspective on his relaxation time. When I expect him to spend his weekends helping me and allowing me ‘time off’, am I selfishly denying him that vital ‘downtime’?! To me, watching hours of YouTube videos seems like a pointless waste of family time but actually, he needs that switch off just as much as I do!
I guess, in the end, that’s all about balance. Balance between us both, allowing each other space to recharge. For me, I’m absolutely going to practice this idea of, in essence, planning my relaxation time. Not letting fatigue suck me back to the same routine and acknowledging that to relax is as basic a need as food and water…not something to feel guilty about doing!